So, another school year has begun. And this year, my youngest son started his sophomore year of high school at my old stompin’ grounds! As we walked around the High School after picking up his schedule, I pointed out different areas I remembered. But, much has changed as well.
The kids don’t get lockers anymore. Their books are on a Chromebook, so they get to miss the joy of carrying huge books to class and running to get to the locker and switch out those huge textbooks, as they go to the next hour.
There’s many more food choices for these kids. They can get Subway or Chinese, regular line, salad, burgers, chicken…pretty much whatever they want.
My city has a large, modern football stadium now. No more driving over to the site of the original high school and playing football on an older field. It’s across the parking lot now.
And of course, all the kids have cell phones now. Remember when we had to go ask the office if we wanted to call our parents? And, we had to go to the library to do our research instead of using the internet.
There are many more activities and clubs for kids now. The list goes on and on and on!
It was fun thinking back to those days and I laugh at my senior picture with the shoulder pads and the big hair! There are just some things that need to stay back in 1992!
However, life didn’t exactly turn out the way I planned. I wanted to pastor a church with my husband, while teaching High School History and raising kids together. Instead, I work a couple of part-time jobs and I am a single parent who shares custody with my ex-husband. My kids have a step-mom and step-siblings.
After my divorce, I didn’t look forward to filling out any paperwork. They all want to know your marital status. Ugh!! I wasn’t married, but I didn’t feel single. Eventually though, I realized that single was just a box I checked. I’m more than that box. And so are you! God made us! He’s made us each unique, with different strengths and abilities.
Life may have taken quite a few twists and turns, but when I look at my life now, I’m content. And I’m happy. Of course, I want to be married again. But, a marital status doesn’t make me who I am.
We need to take an inventory of our lives. Instead of focusing on the mistakes and the hurts and the unfulfilled dreams, look at all you’ve accomplished. Is it hard to see the good things?
Well, let me ask you, are the kids still alive? Do they have food and clothes? Do you manage to get most of the stuff done on your to-do list? Then, you’ve succeeded, Momma!
People like to remind us how hard it is to be a single mom. And, it’s easy to start focusing on that. But, what we focus on is what we start to believe. So, be careful what you’re looking at! Remind yourself that with God, all things are possible! Look at how well you are doing. Be content and enjoy this time in your life. It doesn’t mean you forget about your hopes, it just means that you’ll be happy while waiting for them to happen!
And, while you’re at it, tell your kids all those stories about how you didn’t have Google or GPS! Trust me, they’ll think you’re a hero, just because you survived those cave-man days!
By Gwendolyn Irene
Daring Adventures of Single Parenthood, A Devotional. https://www.gwendolynirene.com/books/