The Single Mom Look

Someone recently told me that I don't look like a single mom, which made no sense to me at the time. It made me ask myself what exactly does a single mom look like?

Some days I have bags under my eyes (or mascara from the day before if I'm being completely honest), my hair is either up to hide that I haven't had the chance to shower or covered in dry shampoo, clean sweatpants are the closest thing I get to "getting dressed", and we're having frozen pizza for dinner for a third night in a row.

Some days I get to shower, fix my hair, do my makeup, dress up, look nice, smell nice, feel nice, make dinner, take my daughter on a date night, clean house, do laundry, finally lay down in a bed with clean sheets.

Some days are a weird combination. My daughter drew me the most beautiful picture of us - on the living room wall. Dinner was made but I know the dishes will just have to sit there until I can find time to get to them. Laundry is done, but the clothes are gonna sit in that basket by the bed and have to be ironed - but that seems easier than folding them right this minute.

Sometimes being a single mom looks like a lot of different things. Super woman. Couch potato. Escaped psych patient. For me, sometimes a homeless person. 

Despite what it looks like any day of the week, we're incredible. We're strong, fiercely independent, brave, and maybe sometimes a little bit scary. We're at times seen as intimidating because we play so many parts. We're the good cop and the bad cop. Sometimes we're the good, the bad, and the ugly all at once. 

So what does a single mom look like? It's hard to narrow it down to just one thing. But I can wholeheartedly say a single mom never looks weak. Even on our worst days, my hat is off to single moms, because single moms rock.


~Jamie Arnold