4 Ways to Prepare Your Anxious Child for a Successful School Year

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Being the parent of a child or teen with anxiety comes with an extra layer of responsibility — and an extra large heart. It’s not easy to watch your child suffer from anxiety, from feeling calm and at-ease to uncomfortable and out of control. Supporting your child with anxiety means being there for them during high-stress times, which can often be unpredictable. Most kids dealing with anxiety will feel anxious before, during, and after social situations where they feel they might be judged. None of these days are more intense than the first day of school.

This guide gives you a few tips to help set them up for a successful year.

Help Them Start the Day Right

 Anxiety is a terrible feeling that can snowball throughout the day, getting more and more intense as the day moves on. If you help your child start the day calm and confident, he or she will be better able to manage their anxious moments — preventing an emotional avalanche. Be sure your kid eats a full breakfast that’s high in protein and low in sugar and caffeine. Try to set aside enough time to go for a walk or jog; exercise is one is the strongest natural coping mechanisms for stress and anxiety. Finally, take 10 or 15 minutes for silent meditation. You might be able to combine this with walking or jogging, but either way, a dedicated time to pause and breathe can set the right tone for a healthy, happy day.

Show Them How to Manage a Workload

 Time management is key to a good school year. This is especially true for students active in extracurricular activities such as sports, theater, newspaper, or yearbook who need to balance those commitments with their academic responsibilities. It’s enough for any average student to feel overwhelmed at times, but it is especially intense for a child or teen with anxiety. They may have moments where they feel like they are constantly behind or don’t belong.

Help them stay on top of their workload by creating a calendar that shows them their whole day or even week at a glance. Have them set an alarm when doing homework that encourages them to take breaks to rest their minds. Encourage them to make a to-do list every morning when they wake up and write a journal entry celebrating their accomplishments each night before bed.

Make Sure They Have the Right Supplies

 From paper and pencils to calculators and computers, kids need to have the right tools in order to maintain a strong performance in the classroom. Having the right supplies means one less thing your child or teen will have to worry about, which frees up their minds for learning. Purchasing supplies can add up, but it doesn't have to break the bank. In addition to back-to-school sales and discounts for buying in bulk, you can also search for online coupons, cashback opportunities, and promo codes; even large retailers like Target, Amazon, and Walmart provide unbelievable online offers and digital discounts.

Set Up a Special Space

A place to concentrate on assignments, relax at the end of the day, or calm down during a bout of anxiety — your child deserves a space that accommodates all these needs. Give him or her a special space outside of the bedroom that encourages all three. Make sure to use natural lighting, soft colors, and neutral tones to create a sense of peace and ease. Set up a reading or meditation nook, headphones to listen to soothing music, and perhaps an inspirational quote or two — so long as it helps your child let go of his or her worry. You can decorate a spare room or a spare corner; just be sure to get your child’s input on how the space should be arranged.

While it’s normal to feel anxious or sad occasionally during childhood, persistent and frequent anxiety needs to be addressed. One in eight kids suffers from an anxiety disorder, and sadly, roughly 80 percent of those diagnosed don’t get treatment. If you suspect your child’s anxiety is beyond typical adolescent stress, talk to him or her with an open heart and mind.

Joyce Wilson

Self-Love or Selfish

After leaving my very toxic relationship, I had to get to the real important stuff. ME!  What made me happy & laugh, and what didn’t! The more I did the RIGHT things, the stronger I got and it was contagious. Like the color was returning to my cheeks. Daily I was praying for healthy relationships in my life. Mostly others are the same path. Was there a community for me? I felt labeled as jaded (even if I wasn’t) because of my situations and longed for acceptance. I knew I had to let go of toxic people, but my life was surrounded by ONLY them and what friends would I have left.

For years, I was told I was worthless and after leaving now I was being called selfish. I recall fighting over whose work schedule was more important, and I was responsible for all things having to do with a sitter. Not to mention the “timed” visits with our daughter.

As I started to use my legs again and voice, I most certainly received the backlash and guilt tripping for wanting to build a life of my own again.

But I drew that line in the sand years ago and turned to Personal Development again. With each book the repeating expression of “Filling Ones Cup” came to a head. What did this mean? The unfortunate part about this is society (and my ex) is that we could be fooled into thinking that taking care of yourself first is selfish. Well I call Bull S*it on this one!

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The female has somehow programmed herself to put everyone before them. In my quest, not only did I discover the importance of putting yourself first is vital, its more beneficial for all she may love. I had found my community with a group of people that were making themselves a priority and I was ALL in. I will share the first things I learned during my soul searching.

7 easy ways to demonstrate Self-Love

1.      Fuel your body – Goodness when I was on the downward spiral, so was my eating & nutrition. Bad choices and bad FOOD were habits. That’s if I wasn’t starving myself. The first step to self-love is to fuel your body to WORK for you. And not against you. The better I eat, the better I feel & younger.

2.      Exercise for Life – This was a love/hate for me at first. Who really loves to work out anyway? But when I found this community and begin to exercise, they made me feel at home, they helped me stay accountable, and they introduced me (single hot-mess mom) to a program that I can do in my HOME. Of course, I loved them instantly, then I appreciated the convenience of it all, and I fell in LOVE with the results both internal and external. When you exercise you feel better and gain confidence. Period. Its self-love at its best performance!

3.      Meditate & Relaxation – Our mind is always is overload. Daily mediation if only 10 minutes a day; can make a huge impact on the longevity of yourself. Simple mediation will allow you to minimize worries & anxiety. Another step to self-love.

4.      Spend time with friends – Favorite. When is the last time you said yes to dinner & drinks? This one is a must. We never battle alone. Sharing daily struggles with friend will certainly help you sort out & solve some at home issues. A wonderful example of self-love.

5.      Treat yourself – It doesn’t have to be expensive, but if a fun-loving coffee mug speaks to you, then buy it, and do NOT feel bad. You don’t need a reason, permission, or the extra cash. Buy yourself something from time to time.

6.      Daily Affirmations – These gorgeous words are small and complimentary to YOU. But the impact is BIGGER than life for turning our attitude around. We can reprogram one-self and thought patters by saying, writing, and repeating personal affirmations over in our mirrors each day. Stare straight into your eyes, and remind yourself how important you are to YOU. Trust and believe in you and tell yourself how much YOU love yourself.

7.      Bless, Release & Forgive – At times we feel that those who have hurt us should suffer. However, I have discovered forgiving, has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with us. Holding onto hate, will only road block our dreams, goals, or growth for our future endeavors. Learn to forgive freely. Give yourself permission to let go. What is done is done. Lead with love and grow because of this.

This process has been extremely beneficial for my transformations. I have managed to lose over 62lbs. and 20 inches. I have rid all the toxic & negative relationships in my life. I have learned so much about me and that self-love has been a huge part of my single-mom journey. I follow these actions daily to improve my mental and physical health. I strongly encourage you to do the same and if you would like more information, please message me at the following.

~Tina Derbish 

Website:  www.tinaderbish.com