It’s Perfectly OK to Not Be Perfectly OK.

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As 2017 ends and 2018 begins, many people are setting new goals and reaching for the stars. They’ve ended 2017 big and are ready for an even bigger 2018. My hat’s off to them and I’m truly happy for them. But, are you ready for a great big huge secret? My 2017 wasn’t so great. And to many of the single moms around me, they’ve whispered the same thing.

            Goals weren’t met.

            Relationships struggled or failed.

            Jobs were hard.

            Money was tight.

This has been said with eyes downcast and voices low. They felt as if they just barely made it to December 31st. And they are left wondering if something is wrong with them. Did God not hear their prayers? What happened?

So, I’m going to say this right here, Sweet Momma’s. It’s Perfectly OK to not be OK. It’s fine that life didn’t go as planned.

Want to know why I can say that? Because the Apostle Paul talks about it. Yes, the man who wrote most of the New Testament, the Apostle who taught us so much about faith, about God, and about the Holy Spirit.

Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little.  For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.  Even so, you have done well to share with me in my present difficulty. Philippians 4:11-14, NLT

I see so much in this passage:

Paul knew how to be content in all situations.

He understood what it was like to have nothing.

He knew what it was like to have everything he needed.

Paul’s circumstances were hard at times. I mean, it’s hard when we don’t have the money to buy the chicken, so we feed the kids ramen noodles and add a can of corn or peas.

Paul experienced betrayal and hurt from those around him.

He was shipwrecked…while doing his God-given assignment.

But, Paul held onto something stronger than hunger, better than friendships, and as steady as his personal commitment to serve God. Paul knew where his strength could be found. That strength was found in Christ, His Savior.

Because of that, Paul could say he was never in need. Because all he needed was in Christ and in that, was contentment.

So, ladies, feel free to acknowledge, out loud, that 2017 might not have been everything you hoped for! Allow yourself to grieve what didn’t come to pass. Embrace the fact that some things just weren’t OK.

But, never let go of the source of your strength! Never lose sight of what keeps you going every day. Life isn’t always going to be easy. But, you know what? Life is constantly fluid and as you trust God, it will get better. That season is just that; a season. A time. A line on the timeline of your life.

That test is a testimony of God’s faithfulness. The time will come when you can look back and say, “Things weren’t OK and that’s OK. Because I kept believing and now look at how God took a difficult time and turned it into something beautiful.”

Have an amazing 2018, Momma’s!

Gwendolyn Irene