I live in Oklahoma and this past winter was just weird! There was lots of rain and wind, as usual. We had some really cold days as well. Nothing unusual there. But, it never really seemed to end! I had to turn mu heater on in April! It was crazy. In fact, the first sunny, warm day we had, I went and walked on the river. It felt so good to have sunlight!
I’m sure there was some scientific explanation somewhere for the odd weather. But, honestly, there was nothing we could do about it. We just had to wait for spring to come again.
From the beginning, God set seasons into motion. I wonder what it was like, to plant the first garden! To put a seed in the ground and wait for the green plant to burst through the soil. To watch as the tiny blade turned into corn, wheat, and carrots. Then, to wait until the food reached maturity and could be removed from the vine. Did our ancestors walk out daily to check the progress? Did they question God about whether this gardening thing would even work? Did they smack their lips as the vegetables grew, just waiting until they could put that morsel into their mouths?
Seasons don’t just exist for farmers. All of us have seasons.
We were children. Then we were teens. We became young ladies, then women. And eventually, we became mothers. Each stage of our lives were different seasons, with the good and the bad intertwined.
At some point, we became Single Moms. We started doing this parenting thing alone. Whether you have joint custody, sole custody, visitation schedule’s or not, you’re the only adult in the home. And, while you are going through this season, your children are going through their own seasons.
Let’s face it! Everyone in our home, no matter the age, are going through seasons. Some are easy. Some are difficult. The important thing to remember is that seasons morph into another phase. Then another. And another.
Your smiling baby may become a whining toddler. Who then becomes a shy child. Then a social butterfly through the teens years. Then awkward and unsure as they enter adulthood. At the same time that you are helping your child navigate their seasons, you’re going through some of your own. Finding jobs. Changing careers. Going to school. Involved in church and the community. On the PTA. Coaches assistant. Dating. The list could go on and on.
Honestly, it’s amazing we manage to keep our heads on our shoulders with all we have going on!
But, when it gets tiring or confusing, remember that it’s just a moment on God’s timeline. Realize that some days will be filled with lots of laughs. Other days may be filled with binging on Netflix. Always keep in mind that everything will change someday.
I have two adult children now and one son still at home. I’m nearing the end of this season of raising kids. For twenty-two years, I’ve been a mom. For eight of those years, I’ve been a single mom. Each season has had its challenges and tears, but also its laughter and joy.
Because in the middle of all this changing, there is one constant. And that is God. He who set seasons into motion, never changes. And that constant keeps us strengthened when the seasons get long and the winter seems to never end. Just hold on momma and enjoy this season! You’ll never have that season with that child again!
By Gwendolyn Irene
Daring Adventures of Single Parenthood, A Devotional. https://www.gwendolynirene.com/books/