Peeling, yellow walls. One bunk bed. A bathroom shared with three other families. Pajamas for the kids and oversized clothes from the hospital for me. No money. No home. No hope. Just a big, empty void.
That was how I started my journey into single motherhood.
Let me tell ya, sister. I see you. I see the struggle to put food on the table sometimes. I see the frustration as you have to miss event after event for your kids. I feel the pain of another holiday with no one to make it special for you. I know there are tears when you have to tell them that there isn't time, there isn't money, the isn't... whatever they want.
I feel your pain. I know it feels like the hard is never-ending.
But hold on, Mama. You have what it takes, and you are exactly what those kids need. They were born to you for a reason. You are the only Mama that can mold them into the humans they were meant to be. You, your struggles, your victories... you were meant for them. There is no mom that can do better for them than you can. Because they are yours. Their hearts beat in your womb before they ever experienced this world. And your heart beats with them as they go through this life. They know that.
And ya know what? They will love you no matter what. And your life is all they really need. It is enough. You are enough. In fact, you're more than enough. You are good. You are necessary. You are beautiful. And you get to change the world as you hold these small people into responsible adults.
You may not be able to give them a trip to Disney right now, but you can watch a Disney movie and eat the food that they probably ate in the movie.
You may not be able to take them on an extravagant camping adventure, but you can make a blanket fort in your living room and dream up crazier adventures than real life could ever hold.
Your kids don't need the money and things. Your kids need YOU. They need you present, they need you while they need you happy.
So Mama, don't feel bad when you can't give them things or when they have to sacrifice. They are learning about life, about reality... they are watching you.
Be the best you. For them. Take care of yourself. For them. Love yourself. For them.
I know it can be hard for us to value ourselves sometimes. But you absolutely must find your value. For them. And for you.
You are worth it, Mama. You are so loved.