Seasons

I live in Oklahoma and this past winter was just weird! There was lots of rain and wind, as usual. We had some really cold days as well. Nothing unusual there. But, it never really seemed to end! I had to turn mu heater on in April! It was crazy. In fact, the first sunny, warm day we had, I went and walked on the river. It felt so good to have sunlight!

I’m sure there was some scientific explanation somewhere for the odd weather. But, honestly, there was nothing we could do about it. We just had to wait for spring to come again.

From the beginning, God set seasons into motion. I wonder what it was like, to plant the first garden! To put a seed in the ground and wait for the green plant to burst through the soil. To watch as the tiny blade turned into corn, wheat, and carrots. Then, to wait until the food reached maturity and could be removed from the vine. Did our ancestors walk out daily to check the progress? Did they question God about whether this gardening thing would even work? Did they smack their lips as the vegetables grew, just waiting until they could put that morsel into their mouths?

Seasons don’t just exist for farmers. All of us have seasons.

We were children. Then we were teens. We became young ladies, then women. And eventually, we became mothers. Each stage of our lives were different seasons, with the good and the bad intertwined.

At some point, we became Single Moms. We started doing this parenting thing alone. Whether you have joint custody, sole custody, visitation schedule’s or not, you’re the only adult in the home. And, while you are going through this season, your children are going through their own seasons.

Let’s face it! Everyone in our home, no matter the age, are going through seasons. Some are easy. Some are difficult. The important thing to remember is that seasons morph into another phase. Then another. And another.

Your smiling baby may become a whining toddler. Who then becomes a shy child. Then a social butterfly through the teens years. Then awkward and unsure as they enter adulthood. At the same time that you are helping your child navigate their seasons, you’re going through some of your own. Finding jobs. Changing careers. Going to school. Involved in church and the community. On the PTA. Coaches assistant. Dating. The list could go on and on.

Honestly, it’s amazing we manage to keep our heads on our shoulders with all we have going on!

But, when it gets tiring or confusing, remember that it’s just a moment on God’s timeline. Realize that some days will be filled with lots of laughs. Other days may be filled with binging on Netflix. Always keep in mind that everything will change someday.

I have two adult children now and one son still at home. I’m nearing the end of this season of raising kids. For twenty-two years, I’ve been a mom. For eight of those years, I’ve been a single mom. Each season has had its challenges and tears, but also its laughter and joy.  

Because in the middle of all this changing, there is one constant. And that is God. He who set seasons into motion, never changes. And that constant keeps us strengthened when the seasons get long and the winter seems to never end. Just hold on momma and enjoy this season! You’ll never have that season with that child again! 

By Gwendolyn Irene

www.gwendolynirene.com

Daring Adventures of Single Parenthood, A Devotional. https://www.gwendolynirene.com/books/

 

It's Just One of Those Messy-Bun- Hair Days!

Have you ever just had a day where you were ready to shout, "Do over!" by 9am?

You and the kids overslept.

The laundry never got moved from the washer to dryer and it's still wet.

Breakfast was throwing granola bars at the kids as they ran for the bus.

The kid's dad called and was upset about something, but you didn't have time to figure out why.

Messy bun on top of your head because you didn't have time to style it.

Running late for work and the gas tank is empty.

And just when you thought things couldn't get worse, you walk into the office bathroom and look up…and you forgot to put on your make-up!

"Hope this wasn't the day I was supposed to meet Prince Charming, because he'd turn around and never look back!"

We've all had day's like that. Days that things just didn't go according to our well-made plans.

But, you know what? It's OK. Go ahead. Look in that mirror, Momma. Take a deep breath or two. And just say it, out loud, "It's going to be OK."

There are times we must stop and remind ourselves just who we are; imperfect moms who have a perfect Heavenly Father! Psalm 46:10 tells us to "Be still and know that I am God." Those are God's words, written just for us. I have to believe that God looked across the expanse of time, and saw those messy-hair-bun days. He knew that we would need to be reminded that He's got us!

Lately, I've had quite a few of those messy-hair-bun days. Want to know what's funny to me? Those are the days I get the most compliments! "I love your hair today! It looks great!" Wait! What? I'm ready to throw in the towel, and you're telling me I look good? My hair is up because I just couldn't handle one more thing today! And you think I've got it all together! How does that even happen?

Because the God of the universe, cares about those messy-bun-hair days. He sees it all. He knows about the teenager that rolled his eyes all morning. He knows about the 3rd grader, crying over a spelling test he failed. He knows the extra bills that came in the mail. He knows that some days, getting out of bed and facing the world, takes every ounce of strength that's in you.

And, He looks at us and smiles.

"It's OK, daughter! Just take a deep breath. Allow me to quiet you. I'm working in these situations. Just do what you have to do. Do the best you can. I've got you. I've got your kids. Just wrap that hair in a messy bun and go out into your day! It's all going to be OK!"

Momma's, you're doing great! Even when it doesn't seem like it. Even when you forget to thaw out the meat for dinner. Even when you forgot to bring umbrellas to the soccer game on a rainy day. Even when… just fill in the blank. We've all had those days.

And, on those days, your super-power is pulling that hair back into a messy bun and doing life with your kids! Because you know, everything is going to be just fine!

By Gwendolyn Irene

www.gwendolynirene.com

Daring Adventures of Single Parenthood, A Devotional. https://www.gwendolynirene.com/books/

Woman You Are a Warrior

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To always stand on the fringe,

On the outside looking in,

To bridge the gap, to claw your way back,

To the surface

Judged

Misunderstood

Ignored

Forgotten

When loneliness shreds you apart,

And weariness empties your heart,

Always on the giving end, with never enough to give

Worn thin to oblivion, in the shadow of society built on togetherness

Where is your hope of the shore Woman when the sea wages its war?

But Woman, you are a warrior

When you stand, you stand on your own,

When the other ones fold in lover’s arms,

You stand under the Creator’s wing and cling

To a quiet dream, and every day shoulder the impossible.

Your love is like no other, your love thunders and tears asunder

Your arms and hands are beauty 

Though they are weary, for the little ones they ferry, all alone

There’s no time to fold, there’s no option to quit, no luxury of giving in

For your weariness is precious and your efforts are endless and so far from perfection

But Woman, you are a warrior.

~Brandi Dailey 

Thrive Single Moms

http://www.thrivesinglemoms.org/