It's Just One of Those Messy-Bun- Hair Days!

Have you ever just had a day where you were ready to shout, "Do over!" by 9am?

You and the kids overslept.

The laundry never got moved from the washer to dryer and it's still wet.

Breakfast was throwing granola bars at the kids as they ran for the bus.

The kid's dad called and was upset about something, but you didn't have time to figure out why.

Messy bun on top of your head because you didn't have time to style it.

Running late for work and the gas tank is empty.

And just when you thought things couldn't get worse, you walk into the office bathroom and look up…and you forgot to put on your make-up!

"Hope this wasn't the day I was supposed to meet Prince Charming, because he'd turn around and never look back!"

We've all had day's like that. Days that things just didn't go according to our well-made plans.

But, you know what? It's OK. Go ahead. Look in that mirror, Momma. Take a deep breath or two. And just say it, out loud, "It's going to be OK."

There are times we must stop and remind ourselves just who we are; imperfect moms who have a perfect Heavenly Father! Psalm 46:10 tells us to "Be still and know that I am God." Those are God's words, written just for us. I have to believe that God looked across the expanse of time, and saw those messy-hair-bun days. He knew that we would need to be reminded that He's got us!

Lately, I've had quite a few of those messy-hair-bun days. Want to know what's funny to me? Those are the days I get the most compliments! "I love your hair today! It looks great!" Wait! What? I'm ready to throw in the towel, and you're telling me I look good? My hair is up because I just couldn't handle one more thing today! And you think I've got it all together! How does that even happen?

Because the God of the universe, cares about those messy-bun-hair days. He sees it all. He knows about the teenager that rolled his eyes all morning. He knows about the 3rd grader, crying over a spelling test he failed. He knows the extra bills that came in the mail. He knows that some days, getting out of bed and facing the world, takes every ounce of strength that's in you.

And, He looks at us and smiles.

"It's OK, daughter! Just take a deep breath. Allow me to quiet you. I'm working in these situations. Just do what you have to do. Do the best you can. I've got you. I've got your kids. Just wrap that hair in a messy bun and go out into your day! It's all going to be OK!"

Momma's, you're doing great! Even when it doesn't seem like it. Even when you forget to thaw out the meat for dinner. Even when you forgot to bring umbrellas to the soccer game on a rainy day. Even when… just fill in the blank. We've all had those days.

And, on those days, your super-power is pulling that hair back into a messy bun and doing life with your kids! Because you know, everything is going to be just fine!

By Gwendolyn Irene

www.gwendolynirene.com

Daring Adventures of Single Parenthood, A Devotional. https://www.gwendolynirene.com/books/

Woman You Are a Warrior

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To always stand on the fringe,

On the outside looking in,

To bridge the gap, to claw your way back,

To the surface

Judged

Misunderstood

Ignored

Forgotten

When loneliness shreds you apart,

And weariness empties your heart,

Always on the giving end, with never enough to give

Worn thin to oblivion, in the shadow of society built on togetherness

Where is your hope of the shore Woman when the sea wages its war?

But Woman, you are a warrior

When you stand, you stand on your own,

When the other ones fold in lover’s arms,

You stand under the Creator’s wing and cling

To a quiet dream, and every day shoulder the impossible.

Your love is like no other, your love thunders and tears asunder

Your arms and hands are beauty 

Though they are weary, for the little ones they ferry, all alone

There’s no time to fold, there’s no option to quit, no luxury of giving in

For your weariness is precious and your efforts are endless and so far from perfection

But Woman, you are a warrior.

~Brandi Dailey 

Thrive Single Moms

http://www.thrivesinglemoms.org/

The Single Mom Look

Someone recently told me that I don't look like a single mom, which made no sense to me at the time. It made me ask myself what exactly does a single mom look like?

Some days I have bags under my eyes (or mascara from the day before if I'm being completely honest), my hair is either up to hide that I haven't had the chance to shower or covered in dry shampoo, clean sweatpants are the closest thing I get to "getting dressed", and we're having frozen pizza for dinner for a third night in a row.

Some days I get to shower, fix my hair, do my makeup, dress up, look nice, smell nice, feel nice, make dinner, take my daughter on a date night, clean house, do laundry, finally lay down in a bed with clean sheets.

Some days are a weird combination. My daughter drew me the most beautiful picture of us - on the living room wall. Dinner was made but I know the dishes will just have to sit there until I can find time to get to them. Laundry is done, but the clothes are gonna sit in that basket by the bed and have to be ironed - but that seems easier than folding them right this minute.

Sometimes being a single mom looks like a lot of different things. Super woman. Couch potato. Escaped psych patient. For me, sometimes a homeless person. 

Despite what it looks like any day of the week, we're incredible. We're strong, fiercely independent, brave, and maybe sometimes a little bit scary. We're at times seen as intimidating because we play so many parts. We're the good cop and the bad cop. Sometimes we're the good, the bad, and the ugly all at once. 

So what does a single mom look like? It's hard to narrow it down to just one thing. But I can wholeheartedly say a single mom never looks weak. Even on our worst days, my hat is off to single moms, because single moms rock.

 

~Jamie Arnold